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The PLN has no officers and little structure. Its purpose is to share ideas among members, to help us network and aid each other with our projects, and to set new projects in motion.

Our official common-denominator goal, and our commitment to the poly community, is “To promote acceptance of relationship choice.”

Welcome to the Polyamory Leadership Network

The Polyamory Leadership Network (PLN) is a loose association of about 140 people around the world working to advance public awareness of polyamory — open, ethical, consensual non-monogamy, often flowering into romantic group relationships — as a valid and positive relationship choice for some people. We are working to educate the public and to build skills and resources within the growing worldwide poly community itself.


Vision

For centuries, certain people and groups have had extraordinary, revelatory experiences with multi-love relationships — leading these people to become passionate about spreading the word that polyamory exists and can work. For some people and intimate groups, poly can create dazzling new ways of life rich in love and joy and wonder — when done with wisdom, honesty, care, insight, and abundant communication all around.

Many of us feel that polyamory represents a remarkable potential deep in human nature that few know exists. Some of us see it as the generalization of romantic couple-love: from the particular, two-person form that everyone knows about into something larger and more fundamental, if much less known.

But people and groups who experienced these revelations, and had this passion, usually found themselves alone in a wide wilderness, with no paths for action in sight.

We hope to start a new era in which such paths are visible and waiting.


Background

The PLN began in October 2008, thanks to volunteers working with Polyamorous NYC who were planning that month’s Poly Pride Weekend in New York. They realized that the weekend was bringing lots of well-known poly activists to the city who had never met. So Polyamorous NYC scheduled a National Polyamory Leadership Summit for right after the weekend’s events. At that meeting, 34 people came together to brainstorm ideas and discuss how next to proceed.

Despite the enthusiasm at that first event, not much happened until the second Summit in February 2009, held right after Loving More’s Poly Living Conference near Philadelphia. That meeting drew 62 people including some by audio hookup. The group brainstormed project ideas — dozens of them! — and formed committees around “point people” who volunteered to work on some of them. Because most of the people attending came from far and wide, it was decided to work via collaborative Google Groups. A main Google Group was set up for general discussions, and several others were created for specific project committees.

In the online discussion following the meeting, the participants decided to name the group the Polyamory Leadership Network — with the understanding that “leadership” simply means “people who do cool things without waiting for permission.” The group makes no claim to speak for anyone else, aside from the fact that people who speak out on any topic will be heard more than those who don't. A similar term would be “movers and shakers” as suggested by members of the Modern Poly group.

The Google Groups approach to running projects had partial success. By the time of the third summit in March 2010 (with 35 attending, again following Poly Living outside Philadelphia), many of the projects from the previous year had died on the vine, but others had come partially or wholly to fruition. It was clear by now that volunteer energy among widely scattered people goes only so far. So this third meeting was designed to identify people’s own current projects; to identify what excites and motivates each person and what they do well (because these are the things that get done); to list the skills and abilities each member offers the rest; and to list Action Items that people would commit to in order to move their own projects forward. And more ideas were launched.

The fourth Summit took place in October 2010 on the outskirts of Seattle (31 attending), again following a Loving More Poly Living conference. We reviewed progress on projects, brainstormed some new ones, brought new members up to speed, and held networking sessions in several formats to match people with others having similar plans, visions, and skills. Discussion sessions focused on four topics in particular:

poly outreach to the general public and to other alt-sexualty communities;
dealing with the media;
fundraising; and
the Canadian legal case regarding criminalization of polygamy and polyamory.
Since then, the PLN has settled into what seems to be its permanent role: as an active discussion and coordination group for polyactivists building projects or wishing to assist in projects, and for sharing ideas and information toward this end. Most discussions take place on a dedicated PLN Google Group discussion list. Particular projects (such as the PLN Tech Team and the Poly Outreach Committee) have their own spinoff Google Groups.

More recently, members held smaller regional PLN meetings in Philadelphia in February 2012, Atlanta in March 2012, and Philadelphia in February 2014. These smaller regional meetings (about 12 to 20 people) seem to be particularly productive, though the internet is where most now happens.


Membership

Membership in the PLN is by application. Perhaps the best way into the PLN is to do cool poly-awareness activism that attracts our attention, and we invite you. Or, if you’d like to collaborate with other poly leaders on their projects and/or seek help for the projects you are doing, you can complete a new member application. We'll ask you about your poly activist work and vision, your related skills and experience, a personal reference, and a pledge basically to play well with others.

We put value on you being sponsored by one or more existing members of the PLN, though you may certainly apply without this.

Feel free to pass our information to poly activists you may know. We want to create a fertile collaboration zone for everyone who is doing poly activist projects, shares our vision, and works productively with others in a collaborative environment.

So, join us? We're in this for the long haul, and we think we've got a bright future.


About Us

The Polyamory Leadership Network (PLN) is a loose association of about 115 people around the world working to advance public awareness of polyamory — open, ethical, consensual non-monogamy, often flowering into romantic group relationships — as a valid and positive relationship choice for some people. We are working both to educate the public and to build skills and resources within the growing worldwide poly community itself.

The PLN has no officers and little structure. Its purpose is to share ideas among members, to help us network and aid each other with our projects, and to set new projects in motion.


Membership Process

Membership in the PLN is by application. To apply, click the "Join PLN" tab above and fill out the application. It asks about your poly activist work and vision, your related skills and experience, a personal reference, and a pledge basically to play well with others. If you're accepted, some of your answers on the application are automatically imported into your Member Profile for other members to see. (You may edit your profile once it's up.)

The following policy resolution was approved by the membership after the February 2009 Summit:

POLICY ON HOW NEW PEOPLE MAY JOIN THE PLN GOOGLE GROUP

Agreed:

  1. That membership in the Polyamory Leadership Network Google Group is open to leaders and allies of the polyamory movement who support responsible multi-partnering in a context of equality, freedom, self-determination, consent, integrity, and respect for all.
  2. That all members of the PLN Google Group are expected to make the following commitments (already made by participants in the March 2009 Poly Leadership Summit): to do their best to stay engaged with and aware of the ongoing work of the group, to collaborate with others in a productive manner, to keep conflict to a minimum and avoid it entirely whenever possible, and to avoid placing personal agendas ahead of the work of the organization.
  3. That a Membership Team of approximately 3 to 5 people be created by the PLN Google Group members.
  4. That anyone who wishes to join the PLN Google Group will be required to fill out the member survey that all participants in the March 2009 Poly Leadership Summit answered and send their answers to the Membership Team, with the understanding that their answers will become available to members of the PLN Google Group.
  5. That the Membership Team will read the responses and verify to their satisfaction that the prospective member is acting in good faith. Verification will include contact with references and/or personal contact with the applicant as needed.
  6. That if the Membership Team finds that the prospective member is appropriate for the group and acting in good faith, the Membership Team will approve the member and publicly welcome the new member to the list.
  7. That the Membership Team will use its best judgment, guided by the discussions on the PLN Google Group, in making membership decisions. If the Membership Team cannot agree on a decision, the Team will ask for guidance from the PLN GoogleGroup as a whole.
  8. That the Membership Team will post the new member's bio survey to the PLN Google Group [or later equivalent], using whatever pseudonym or privacy protection is requested by the new member.


PLN Application

The Polyamory Leadership Network Welcome Team thanks you for your interest in joining our organization. The following is our new member bio/survey form which we ask you to complete and submit.  Approval should take no longer than a week.  The criteria is pretty simple – the team simply wishes to see some kind of experience that will be beneficial to the work of the Network, nothing too stringent.
Note that after approval this information will be shared with other members

Email address where you wish to receive mail from PLN Welcome Team members and for use with PLN’s Google groups
Please affirm that by becoming a member of the Polyamory Leadership Network that you will support the purposes of the PLN (see below) and that you commit in good faith to the following:

  • I will do a fair share of the work on projects that are consistent with the goals of the PLN,
  • I will do my best to stay engaged with and aware of the ongoing work of the PLN.
  • I will collaborate with others in a productive manner.
  • I will do my part to keep conflict to a minimum and avoid it entirely whenever possible.
  • I will abide by the PLN Statement of Purpose while working on PLN projects and will refrain from incorporating other controversial social causes.

Contact Us

You can contact us via email here